Thoughts on Friendship // Jonathan Trout

Monday, October 23, 2017

Hey guys! Today we have a friendship post from my little bro! He's pretty cool, so be sure to check him out on his blog here.

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HI ALL. I’m super pumped to be on Ashley’s blog today! Naturally, I’m here to add some of my thoughts on friendship to everyone else’s. :D Ashley told me to pick one verse or quote, but… I ended up with four? (SORRY ASH)  Which is why I’ve decided to post about four different elements of a good friendship, instead of just focusing on one specific part of friendship. (hopefully no one else has done this already, but if anyone HAS then I haven’t read any of the previous posts yet so I AM SAFE FROM ACCIDENTAL COPYING XD)

I’m a fan of continuity so all my verses come from Proverbs. Let’s get into this!

Good Friends are Honest

Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

Honesty is SUPER important in a good friendship. So many people today will tell you what you want to hear, instead of what’s actually true. We see it all the time in EVERYONE. Even for ourselves, it can be easy to fall into this trap. We think: But I don’t want to offend them… Or: But what will they think of me if I tell them that’s wrong?
A good friend will speak the truth to you in love, even if it makes them uncomfortable or unpopular. They’ll tell you when you’re being an idiot, or when you’re on a path that’s headed in the wrong direction. They’ll base their speech and actions towards you on the truth, not on ulterior motives. They won’t go into a friendship to get something from you.

If they’re a good friend, they care enough about you to tell you the truth. And because they’re willing to tell us the truth, we can grow and learn from them.

Good Friends are Encouraging

Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron, so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.

When I say “encouraging”, I don’t mean that they always make you feel good about yourself. Part of friendship is building each other up, but that’s not the main point of this verse. The point is that they encourage you to strive for godliness, for maturity, for wisdom. They sharpen you. They make you want to grow in Christ.

Instead of making you complacent with where you are, they inspire you to push forward. They know your weaknesses--you know theirs. But you don’t exploit each other’s weaknesses; you seek to help each other overcome them.

Good friends are the voices that cheer us on in our Christian walks. They’re the ones that influence us in a good way. They get us excited about God and they embolden us in our witness. Instead of letting us rest in apathy, they provoke us to good works.

Good Friends are Wise

Proverbs 13:20 He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.

The truth is, our friends influence us. Sometimes we like to think that they don’t, that we’re mature enough, strong enough, and that we’re above being influenced. But that’s not true. The people we surround ourselves with DO influence us, whether we admit it to ourselves or not.  

That’s why it’s important to pay attention to who we’re friends with. If our friends our foolish, that will affect us. If our friends are wise, that will affect us.

Wise friends aren’t just “fair weather” friends. We know we can always count on them to be there for us, telling us the truth about ourselves and our worlds, encouraging us in Christ, and helping us each step of the way as we strive to draw closer to God.

Good Friends Stick with Us

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

A good friend is someone who doesn’t distance themselves from us when we face adversity in our lives. They stick with us. They help us through our problems, even if it costs them.

A good friend will never leave us nor forsake us. Sound familiar? The phrase refers to God, and if you’re His child, then He can be your closest friend. But only if you let Him--it’s easy to push God into the background of our lives, even though He belongs at the center.

When we do put Him in the center of our lives, He’s our closest friend. His Holy Spirit convicts us of sin in our lives and encourages us to push towards a deeper intimacy with Him. We can confide in Him when we need wisdom, and we can rest in the fact that He is with us always, even unto the end of the world.

Jonathan Trout is an 18-year old writer who loves Jesus, big smiles, firm handshakes, and living life with enthusiasm. He enjoys writing bios in third person because they make him sound more professional than he actually is. He’s a novelist, reader, consumer of sour candy, licensed ninja, and blogger. You can stalk him further at his blog, Fishing For Ideas.

Do you have good friends who are these things for you? Are you this kind of friend to others?

Thanks for sharing Jon! Don't forget to comment below and tell us what you thought of the post!


  1. Thanks for having me on here! :D (also for the record she calls me her "little bro" but I'm like a foot taller than her just so everyone's clear on that xD)

  2. Whoa great thoughts, Jon! Thanks a heap for sharing, there's some really interesting things to think about here. *nodnod*

  3. Great thoughts on friendship, Jonathan! ❤️Mom


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