Love: Singleness and Relationships

Monday, February 12, 2018

Thought we would take a week break from our Ecclesiastes 3 series and do a special post about love seeing as Valentines Day is right around the corner. So enjoy!

"And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity." ~ 1 Corinthians 13:13 KJV
In our culture, there's a big focus on romantic relationships and how important and amazing they are. And that's not necessarily a bad thing, it just seems like that's the only kind of relationship we focus on.

The world sees love as this mushy feeling you get around that special someone. It's defined by the way that someone makes you feel. But isn't love so much more than that?
True love, at it's essence, is sacrificial. It's looking out for someone else's needs above your own. Now a days, people get into relationships for their own personal gain. And that's not true love.

Love sacrifices what we want to fulfill the needs of someone else. It's not all about ourselves; it should be about the other person.
Whether you're single, in a relationship, or married, this truth holds true. Because when your little brother makes another mess that you have to clean up, or your significant other has to cancel another date, or your spouse snaps at you, there usually isn't a warm feeling. There's only a choice you have to make: Do I choose to love or not?

Make this choice sooner rather than later. Because in the heat of the moment, it's easier to go with what you feel. But if you've already purposed in your heart, I choose to love, it will be easier to remember that choice and choose it again.

Romantic relationships definitely involve love,  but sometimes I think other relationships get overlooked when we talk about love. Just as we choose to love someone romantically, we should also choose to love others around us.

If you're single, this is especially important to remember because we sometimes focus on romantic love and miss out on the love between siblings, friends, and family. These relationships get overlooked because we're focused on the "more important" kind of love. But when you're single, these relationships are what you should focus on.

Our culture often treats love as cheap. But the more we focus on God's definition of love which includes sacrifice, choice, and every area of life, the more we learn that love is a gift to be received and given away, and that it often comes with a price.
"Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren." ~ 1 John 3:16 KJV

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  1. Replies
    1. As a long time single guy who has a lot of problems in my mind, I've never been in a romantic relationship since middle school. I'm 20 now and believe I'm not ready. For a good and true commitment in a relationship, you need to be able to provide. And understand, and sometimes even protect an/or help

    2. I feel the same way Evan! I'm 20 and don't think I'm ready to be in a romantic relationship right now either. Being single is super fun too though!! Thanks for dropping by Evan :)

    3. sorry I took forever to respond. On those lines, my college is holding a dance at our school's main building for $10 in a few months. Should I go even though I'm single? And one of the best things about being single possibly is you can if a girl's boyfriend allows you to OR if she is single, you can hang out together knowing you are the one who may be helping her deal with the broken heart, instead of breaking her heart.


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