Learning Through Work: One Girl's Thoughts on Working in Childbirth

Monday, April 16, 2018

Many of you probably don't know this, but right now I'm working on getting certified as a labor doula. What's a doula, you ask?

Doulas provide physical and emotional support to a woman in labor. We act as a "birthing coach" if you will to support a mother's birth preferences and help her through the labor process.

To this date, I've only been able to be in on two births, (and one almost birth but that's a different story) and it's quite amazing.

It's also a big learning process. Doulas are so so versatile that it's hard to just have a training and then they certify you. You have to actually experience a couple births for yourself before you can become certified in the doula world.

So, here's some things that I've been learning that can also apply to every day life as well.

Everyone goes into birth with some kind of expectation. And I'm finding, that just like life, our expectations about something rarely happen. I would even go so far as to say, it's almost always the opposite of what we expect.

I'm not saying this to scare anyone, it's just the way it goes oftentimes.

So, when reality is different from what we expected, then we need to be flexible. We've got to realize that things happen and it's okay to just go with the flow. We can't control every single thing that happens.

There are things in birth that make me uncomfortable. Even trying to find someone's hospital room can be pretty nerve-wracking!

But I'm realizing that to be a help to my client I have to get out of comfort zone and ask what I need to do. I need to get down with her and help her breath and tell her she's doing great. And that can be kind of awkward sometimes.

But in life, we've got to step out of our comfort zone and simply ask what needs to be done. It may be uncomfortable but in the end it will be worth it.

Every birth, just like every person, is different. One woman may love to have a reassuring hand on her arm, while other women may hate being touched during labor.

You just have to try different things out and see what works for that specific woman.

Life is a learning process too. Maybe you respond a certain way to someone and it doesn't work the way you thought it would. So, next time you know to respond differently.

Maybe you think you know the right way to do something, but it actually turns out to be the wrong way. That's okay, we're all learning.

Each and every mistake we make is an opportunity to learn from it and do it differently next time.

"Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed." ~Psalms 127:3-5 KJV


  1. good post Ashey! What you are doing sounds unique!

    1. Thank you Evan! It's pretty unique sometimes, but also pretty awesome! :)

  2. I have a friend who is studying to become a midwife. I am studying to become a nurse and take care of older people.<3 I believe God has called me to do that kind of work. Keep up the great work Ashley! I know you are doing a great job helping other women during birth.

    1. That's so cool! I've considered midwifery before, and haven't totally ruled it out just yet, but love what I'm doing right now. Thanks for sharing, and you keep up the good work as well! <3 Thanks for dropping by Naomi :)


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