The Lost Art of Listening

Monday, June 18, 2018

There's a saying about how God gave us two ears and one mouth so we could listen twice as much as we talk. But most of us flip it around; we talk twice as much as we listen.

"Take heed therefor how ye hear..." ~ Luke 8:18a kjv
We live in a loud world, where you can literally put whatever you feel out for the world to see. We're taught that what we have to say is important, even if it doesn't pertain to anyone else.

We think that everyone actually cares about what we have to say, when in reality, everyone is wanting to be heard.

Listening is a lost art, because everyone wants to master talking. 

But it's important that we learn to listen effectively, because it will help us in literally every aspect of our lives.

So today, I'm going to cover three different ways that we should be listening, and why they are important.
When someone is talking to us, we should be listening to understand. We should be listening with an open mind to what they have to say, and ask questions if we're confused.

So many times we make assumptions, based on actions or words, that may not always be true. If we're not listening to what someone is saying, it's easy to have a misunderstanding.

There have been times in my life that misconceptions have arisen about what someone else may think or feel, and often I can go back to those situations and realize that it was because I or someone else didn't take the time to properly understand because we weren't willing to listen and ask questions.

An important question that I've learned to ask when I want more clarification on something is What do you mean by that? It gives the person a chance to expand so that you can understand exactly what he means.
There are some times in life where someone may just need to get something off of his chest. Maybe he needs to rant about something, or talk about his day.

In these instances, sometimes it's good to just let someone talk. They just need a listening ear, not someone who is going to tell them exactly what they need to do.

When we listen, let's listen with love, and let them know that we're available. Sometimes people just need to talk it out with someone and they know what to do. Sometimes they already know what they should do, and they just want to vent to someone about it.
There may be times when someone comes to you asking for advice on something. This is where it's super important to listen to the whole situation and try and understand where they're coming from.

If we can understand the situation, then it's easier to know how to help someone.

A good leader is one who knows his people and therefore is able to make better decisions.

Listening truly is a lost art, but it's something that everyone is capable of doing.
"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." ~ James 1:19 kjv



Do you listen to hear or do you listen to respond?


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6 comments:

  1. Thank you, Ashley. Your words are encouraging. I definitely need to grow as a listener and appreciate the reminder. Mrs. Osborne

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    1. I'm so very glad you find them encouraging! You are an encouragement to me as well :)

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  2. Wonderful and timely reminder, Ashley. Well spoken. <3

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  3. So true! Thanks for sharing!
    -Brooklyne

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