The Search for Fulfillment (and where we've gone wrong)

Monday, July 30, 2018

Everyone is looking for something - they are looking for fulfillment. So today I'm going to look at some of the places we try to find fulfillment and then share where we can find true fulfillment.

"For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself servant unto all, that I might gain the more." ~ 1 Corinthians 9:19 kjv

People in our culture are desperate to find fulfillment; in a job, in a relationship, in a family. They're looking to things to fulfill them - to fill a void in their hearts that cannot be filled with mere objects.

The culture tells us to put ourselves first. Phrases like "take care of yourself first" or "you're #1!" bombard us from every angle. 

We're taught from a young age that we better look out for ourselves, because no one else will. To find true joy and fulfillment, we've got to put ourselves and our futures ahead of others around us.

We think that being in the spotlight would make us happy. (If only I were famous.)
We think that making a lot of money will make us happy. (If only I were rich.)
We think that being in a relationship will make us happy. (If only I were dating.)

We look for all these ways to glorify ourselves; and still don't find the fulfillment we are looking for.
" for men to search their own glory is not glory." ~ Proverbs 25:27b kjv
The world has the wrong focus: They focus on things and themselves in order to gain the fulfillment they are looking for.
 God paints a whole different picture for us in His Word. When Jesus came to the earth, He wasn't trying to help us find our "inner self" or get us to "accept ourselves as we are".

Jesus was in the perfect will of God the Father and He came to serve and ultimately to sacrifice Himself.
"Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many." ` Matthew 20:28 kjv
There's no way that we can find fulfillment in any object or any person outside of Jesus Christ. So fulfillment is not found in a job or a relationship or a family. But it's found, firstly, in accepting Christ into your heart, and, secondly, in following His perfect will for your life.

The Bible shows us what our focus should be: On Christ and His will.
Ultimately, if you're where God wants you to be and you're focused on Him, you will be able to find fulfillment in this life. 

But I believe that there is one key ingredient that everyone must have, no matter what situation the Lord places you in. 

And that ingredient is having a servant's heart. When Jesus was here, He demonstrated what it meant to be a servant. At the Last Supper, He washes all of the disciples' feet to teach them this lesson.

No matter where God has you in life - if you're not willing to serve Him, by serving others around you - you still have the world's focus. Because until you get yourself out of the way, you won't be willing to do the dirty work.
"But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant." ~ Matthew 23:11 kjv
It seems counter-intuitive to us; put others first to find fulfillment? Serve others and you'll have joy?

I really don't know how to explain it, but it's true. Being able to serve others is so much more rewarding to me than being in the spotlight any day.
"For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another." ~ Galatians 5:13 kjv 

Where are you looking for fulfillment?Do you have a servant's heart?

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  1. To quote the famous quote of anyone who is emotionally suicidal and for non Christians is true: " What is life worth living for?" If only more people lived with a answer to that question, that Jesus is what worth living for. Your article is spot on. And sadly, even as Christians we can have the X or Y thing will make us happy. I have had Christan women warn me before that being over obsessed over wanting a relationship is not good! Yet I often am like that : (

    1. Amen Evan! Christ is the only thing worth living for, because everything else will disappoint. Praying for you friend :)

    2. On those lines , prayer for a Christian friend I know would be nice. He’s a new Christian and in a relationship with a non believer. They are close but since he is a young Christian it worries me

    3. they broke up. : ( .

      Gond has done something awesome in my life recantly.... he took away my longing for being in a relationship. That had been a big burdon that was destroying me, so Him taking away that burdon is really nice. God answers prayers.

  2. What a great reminder to keep our focus on Jesus!

    1. I'm glad it could serve as a reminder to you Brooklyne!

  3. God will provide when it is time . I can’t let relationship longings destroy my life. At this point I just wish I was more understood. A few nights ago I lost it and tried to hurt myself , after not doing that in MONTHS! I hate it the bad part of me almost destroyed me. But I stopped myself and Got up on my legs and kept going.


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