A Month of Friendship // with Emmaly Osborne

Thursday, September 13, 2018

Today I have an in-real-life friend who's going to share a little bit in our topic of friendship. If you enjoy the post, please leave a comment and let her know!

Thanks to Ashley for allowing me to share this :) 
Okay, folks, let’s have a talk on true friendship. Please, can’t we be real? Some “friends” stay in their cliques, one is the popular one, and the rest follow. Does it have to be that way? Can’t we just stop following the alpha, and start being ourselves? I know it’s tough, but you don’t need to be constantly under pressure, or treated less for who you really are in Christ. God made you unique. Do you think He wants you to act like someone else He created? He made you to be you. You are IMPORTANT TO HIM, FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE, and no one can take that away from you. 

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are they works; and that my soul knoweth right well. ~ Psalms 139:14

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God. ~Romans 12:2
It’s time to conquer our fears. Is it really that important to be “cool”? Trust me, it’s much cooler to see a young adult being themselves these days.
I have a well-meaning friend that I used to try to please. She was very open about sharing her thoughts about people and what they should change. Change for the better is a good thing if we’re talking about Godly character.
Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. ~Proverbs 27:17
However, she wasn’t talking about Godly character. The longer I knew her, the more pressure I had. I felt like a failure. I couldn’t do my makeup just like she suggested, nor my hair. I became so exhausted with trying to be what she recommended, instead of just being myself. I’m not a makeup pro, nor do I have future career potential in hair styling. I am beautiful in God’s sight, and that is enough for me. My character is much more important to God than my outward appearance. I eventually decided I wasn’t going to let the opinions of others control me anymore. At first, she made it clear she didn’t like me being myself, but as I continued, she started to respect me more. She no longer pressures me, and I’m a TON happier not having that struggle.
Yes, maybe you’ll be kicked out of your click, they might even speak badly about you after that, but you will be free. Free from feeling like a failure when you don’t say the cool thing, do the cool thing, wear the latest thing etc., etc., etc.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and wearing of gold, or of putting of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. ~ 1 Peter 3:3-4
I have a different friend who was part of a clique for a while. Finally, she had enough of it, and left the group. She became friends with other girls. After she left the click she was a lot sweeter, and more caring. She was the best example I’ve ever had of a real, true friend my age. She wasn’t afraid to be herself, and she didn’t care what others thought of her. She sincerely cared about what was going on in others lives, and she didn’t like wasting time acting “cool”. I’m so grateful I got to have her in my life.
A friend is someone who opens their heart to others. They know their own value in Christ, and don’t need the approval of others to decide their value.
Last but not least, let’s not judge people on how “acceptable” they look.
But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart. ~ 1 Samuel 16:7
 Give people a chance. Let’s not be “friends” who ditch others when “popular” people are around. That’s not being true. Real friends are themselves no matter who’s around, they’ll stand up for you, and they’ll sincerely care about you. A true friend loves at all times.
A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. ~ Proverbs 17:17
Let’s stop acting and start being real. You can do it! Be yourself, and, most important, you’ll be a brighter light for Christ.
If you need a friend, or prayer, please tell me. I’d be happy to do either for you.
God bless! ~Emmaly

Thanks again so much for sharing Emmaly :)

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  1. only friends i ever done had tend to not want to get to know the true me it is something I kinda got used to by now. I've been to so many churches that things have changed so much. I wish I had friends but I don't really. I don't have and haven't had any true Christian friends in real life for ages which is kinda :( . Part of me is almost convinced God don't want me to get to know other Christian YAs. ....

    1. I'm sorry Evan! That's a hard situation. But, even if you know people who don't want to know the real you, you should still be yourself around them. There was a time in my life when I really didn't have friends either, but eventually you will make new friends. You know, a lot of my closest Christian friends are a couple years older, or younger than me. Some of the best friends are ones a lot older, or younger than you. God wants you to have Godly friends Proverbs 27:17. I know that I'm not in real life, but I would love to be your friend. I'll be praying for you Evan!~Emmaly

    2. ok. So you don't think that " God doesn't want me to be friends with other Christians?"

    3. Thanks for your comment Evan! I know the struggles of friendships are something that many of us deal with, but we have to remember that, as great as friends are, there are some seasons in life where God wants us to focus on something else. Maybe He wants us to focus on family members or coworkers, but often I've found that He just wants us to focus on Himself, to get our eyes off of other people and to find our fulfillment in Him. As amazing friendships can be, that's not where we should be finding our worth or fulfillment - does God want you to have godly friends? Of course, but not at the expense of your relationship with Him.

    4. That’s where the ? Comes in. I don’t honestly know 100% what God wants. On one side i’ve Seen people who keep away from other Christians and it did not go Well spirituality for them. On another note I am trying to put my focus on God and other Christians will eternally be a distraction it seems so I don’t know weather to isolate or what ?

    5. Ashley , I really struggle with loneliness. I am the son of a church leader in training who also has been a church elder and we have been through so many churches I kinda have left so many people behind that may be partly why it is hard . As of now I have finally settled down in a church that until God says otherwise , I really think is where I will keep going . I can’t, and don’t think God wants me to deal with the church changes that my family tends to go through . I’ve struggled to get to know people cause my social skills in real life could be better.

    6. I am sorry if I went off or am a bother . :(

    7. I understand your questions; they're the kind of questions that many people have had before. As of right now I can't give you a solid answer, since I don't know what God has for your life any more than you do. I do know that the Lord desires you to keep Him first and to cultivate that relationship that you have right now. Loneliness is a hard thing, but if you lean on the Lord I know that He can bring you through it. I'll be praying for you Evan, and don't worry about venting on here :) I try to make it a safe place to share.


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